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Yes, Grey's fans.  The series has returned and the premiere episode promises that this season may be a strange one indeed.  Could it be --- The Season Of The Body Snatchers?

We catch back up to our Seattle Grace faves on the 30th day after the plane crash -the day the crash claims its last victim. Mark has been hooked to life support since the crash. His living will or heath care power of attorney directs that he should be disconnected from artificial life support on the 30th day that passes without any cognizable signs of improvement.   On the first day of the new season, everyone is affected by the knowledge that it's the day that Mark Sloane will die.

Everyone feels that Mark's death on this 30th day means that limbo time is over.  By his final declaration, Mark essentially said, if you can't play after 30 days it's time to get out of the game.    Operating under the Sloane Rule, on this day people are trying to make some big moves.

...continue reading "Grey’s Anatomy: Season Of The Body Snatchers?"

Love threatens your existence while it drags you in.

No, that's not my thought.  This was the theme of a recent piece by Sadhguru for the Huffington Post.  It's written from a Hindu perspective.  I am not of that faith or belief system, but as I read it, I saw the wisdom in the thought process so I wanted to share it with my readers.

According to the article, the Hindus believe that people are made of 4 components:  the body, mind, emotion and energy.  Of these 4 parts, the strongest force is emotion.  A big part of the force of emotion is the power of love.  Sadhguru notes that in acknowledging that you love someone, you have acknowledged another person as meaning far more to you than you mean to yourself.   It threatens your existence.

The moment you say "I love you" to somebody, you will lose all your freedom, you will lose everything that you have. You can no longer do what you want in your life; there are innumerable problems. But at the same time, it drags you in. It is a sweet poison, a very sugary poison. It is self-annihilating.

Sadhguru believes that to know love - to truly experience it - some part of you must die.  The person you love must destroy the space formerly occupied by your single-minded independent thoughts, choices and values.  Choices must be made and weighed based on the scale of 'our' rather than 'my.'  "Somebody else has to occupy that space within you that was you all this time. If you do not let this happen, there is no love, only calculation."

In discussing Shiva, a Hindu deity widely regarded as the most powerful god in Hinduism,  Sadhguru says:

...continue reading "Does Love Kill?"

I read an interesting piece the other day in the Las Vegas Review-Journal.  It was a column by Jack Sheehan titled:  "Every Writer Struggles To Tell The Next Great Story." The piece was about how much more there is to writing a book than telling a story.  It's a great piece and well worth a read.  I completely agree - but I also disagree.

The story is the message in the bottle.  If you're hanging out on a dock and a bottle floats by - you might be angered at the thought that someone disrespected the planet enough to turn a lake into a trashcan.  You might give the thrower the benefit of the doubt and wonder what extreme emotion or life-changing peril the thrower was experiencing that sent the bottle flying towards a watery future.  But it'd be all about the bottle.

What if a man's been alone since his ex skipped off with his business partner and the company bank account.  Now, he's nearly decided there's nothing left to lose - nearly.  He chooses to take one last gamble, writing a note to a lady he's met only in his dreams.  He tucks it in a bottle and lets the water decide his fate.  The note is the story.

Mr. Sheehan's right that the best tale in the world won't carry a reader if it's not told well.  He relates meeting a lady who perked up when she found out he was a writer.  Yes, she had a great story to tell and needed someone to write it down.  Sheehan says:

The clear implication when folks say they have a great idea for a book or movie and just require a scribbler to put it on paper for them is that the person making the pitch is holding all the valuable goodies in this proposition and that the prospective writer is merely a necessary nuisance to be tolerated on the path to stardom.

This is akin to telling Herman Melville, "Hey, Hermie, I have this story about a big fish and a guy who's mad at it. If you can just toss some verbiage around and put the commas in the right place for me, I can take credit for one of the great novels of American literature. … Oh yeah, the fish's last name is Dick."

...continue reading "Is There More To Writing It Down Than Writing It Down?"

Romance novels are big business.  They vastly outsell other genres and have since 204 when romance accounted for 55% of all books sold.

So, what does the data show?  That women and men from all walks of life, from the poverty stricken to the wealthy, from the uneducated to the over educated, from single people and those involved in fulfilling, long term relationships, from the unemployed to those who are top grade professionals, read romances.

This has been true despite the fact that romance novels are viewed with "a certain amount of derision"  - people will publicly look down their politically correct noses at the genre, while secretly, their e-readers are full of romances. Yes, the jerk who just said they'd never be caught dead reading one is probably reading one right now.  You know why?

Because despite how successful the genre has been for many years, it has never been as popular as it is today.  And yes, that is largely due to the wildfire success of "Fifty Shades of Grey." It's the book people love to hate and hate to love.  A British journalist came up with a snappy description of "Fifty Shades" but it uses Mills & Boon.  I'm going to borrow the description but "Americanize" it.  Yes, a journalist and self-proclaimed real life submissive described "Fifty Shades" as a Harlequin romance  "with butt plugs."

...continue reading "Is Romance Coming Out Of The Closet?"

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Just got a review on Amazon for Dangerous Relations:  Griffin's Law that called the book a poor copy of "Fifty Shades of Grey."   It noted that the main character's name is even Grey.

First, if Griffin's copied "Fifty Shades of Grey" then my E.S.P. was really working overtime when I wrote the book. Griffin's was published BEFORE Fifty Shades.....  So if I copied Ms. James work before she published it then -- DAMN, I"M GOOD.  Hey, maybe Miss James book was a poor copy of Griffin's?  (Just kidding, of course.  It's a ridiculous claim - all the way around.)

Anyone who reads this blog knows that Griffin's is my TRIBUTE TO GREY'S ANATOMY.  It  doesn't copy the characters or the settings and is sort of like Grey's Anatomy in a Law School - so it has some "Paper Chase" thrown in as well.  The book is intended to have the spirit and the ambiance of Grey's Anatomy.

And yes, you guessed it,  the main character of Griffin's -- GREY Griffin -- is named "Grey" as a tribute to the show.  Mind you, I love me some Fifty and Christian rocks -- but,  like my book,  the TV show existed long before EL James (Erika Leonard) blessed the world with her great story.

I'm sorry that particular reader didn't like Griffin's.  My work is - as I've often said - a love it or hate it thing and it wasn't to that reader's taste.  She has a right to her opinion ---- but the part about me copying "Fifty Shades" is just flat out wrong.

Yeah, I could've responded to the review on Amazon, but I feel that reviews are a reader's right and are not the proper place for an author to intervene.  When I first published, I'd once in the bluest of moons try to explain something or make a helpful comment, but I only did that once or twice - a long time ago.  I appreciate reviews.  I adore my readers - even when they don't love me back - but I had to protest the charge of "copying."

I didn't even copy Grey's Anatomy in Griffin's.  It's not much of a tribute if it's just a copy now, is it?  Griffin's is MY SPIN on Grey's Anatomy so yeah - it's a lot like me:  different, very, very, different.

But hey, on the bright side, if people think Griffin's is like "Fifty Shades" - that can't be a totally bad thing...

I read a fun piece on Huffpo titled:  "8 Reasons Why Sex Is Better After 50." Having just turned 50 last month, I found the article interesting and possibly even - inspirational.  (Be afraid, Mr. Duck.  Be very afraid!)

The piece was written by Suzanne Braun Levine and it cited a study done by the University of California at San Diego School of Medicine and the San Diego VA Healthcare System. The 806 women studied were over 40, with an average aged participant being 67.  The ladies participated in a larger study that has tracked the health of residents in a planned San Diego Community,  Rancho Bernardo, for over 40 years.

Two Thirds of the women studied reported that they were moderately or very satisfied with their sex lives.  Less than 3% reported that they always or almost always desired sex.  The results mean that the women engaged in sex for a number of reasons including desire but more often to affirm or sustain a relationship. Many of the women who reported being very satisfied with their sex lies weren't engaged in active sexual relationships.  They found sexual satisfaction through touching, caressing or the myriad other small touches exchanged throughout a long relationship.

A highlight of the study -- the proportion of women satisfied with their sex lives increased as the women got older.

Ms. Levine says she's talked to "hundreds" of ladies like those in the study for her books and she thinks there are 8 reasons why sex gets better for women as they mature:

1.    They can separate sex from reproduction;

2.   They can separate sex from love;

3.   They can separate sex from sin;

4.   They're more willing to say "what the hell;"

5.   They're not riding the hormonal roller coaster;

6.   They're motivated to discover new ways to have orgasms;

7.   They've developed a more optimistic outlook;

8.   Drugs like Viagra.

Levine makes the point that women in this range have passed "the reaches of conventional good-girl morality."  She calls "this rule-breaking behavior the Fuck-You-Fifties."  Women over 50 are risk takers who don't have to risk pregnancy to walk on the wild side.  The author feels that the 50+ ladies have mellowed with age.  They've learned to "sweat the small stuff less and cherish the moment more."

The Fuck-You-Fifties?  If I'd known that, I'd have rushed to try to get here faster.  It all makes sense to me, because when I was younger I worried so about what others would think about something I felt or did or said.  Now that I'm older, I'm much more at home and at ease in my own skin.  If I hear now that someone didn't like or didn't approve of something I think or said or did, my reaction is apt to be - okay, and why should I care?  I've finally gotten smart enough to understand how right Popeye was - "I yam what I yam and that's all what I yam."

Given all that, given how aging makes me accept myself - sags, bags, stubbornness and all - it only makes sense that like fine wine, sex gets better with age.

Now where is Mr. Duck hiding this time .......

Darn it.  Darn it all.  Gigaom put on their swami cap and prognosticated about the future of e-books and I missed blogging about it.  Oh, I saved it in my "to blog" list - but, I guess, the duck waddling in my head moved me in other directions.  No matter - today is a good time to catch-up.

Back in January, Trey Ratcliff wrote a great piece for the Giga guys:  "Why e-books will be much bigger than you can imagine." One thing that makes the piece so persuasive is its author's background.  Mr. Ratcliff is a photographer who runs a travel photography blog called "StuckinCustoms." He must be good at what he does because a few years back a trio of publishers approached him about writing a book.  He picked a publisher, got a $20,000 advance and wrote a book called "A World in HDR."

After the long haul of writing the book - a tough process as anyone who ever wrote one will tell you - he flew up to San Francisco for dinner with some big-wigs from his publishing company.  They looked at him and asked him a question he never imagined.  They asked:  “OK, Trey, what are you going to do to market this book?” Ratliff says, "You could have knocked me over with a feather."

Yes, that's right quackers - the publisher expected the author to create and execute his own marketing campaign.  And so he did just that.  But it took scads of time and effort.  For all that work, the publisher pocketed 85% and the author who spent so much of his own time marketing the book, made only 15%.  After he added the numbers and weighed the effort, Ratliff started Flatbooks, an ebook publishing company that focuses on instructional books.  His new business hit 6 figures fast, eclipsing his earnings from a traditional publisher.

In this era, Ratliff says:

It turns out that tech companies — especially Apple and Amazon — are the new publishers. And this is, of course, because their technology disintermediates all the component steps required for a physical book. We have all seen the numbers about the growth of e-books and how every category is impinging on the traditional book categories.

Ratliff says that even the rosy prognostications about the growth of e-books aren't actually rosy enough. Those predictions err, Ratliff says, because they anticipate that for every dollar lost to traditional publishing, a dollar is gained by e-publishing.  That's off the mark because e-books are not on a one-to-one footing with traditional books.  What's the correct ratio?

This ratio is actually closer to 1-to-2 because people are collecting e-books like nuts for the winter. They are easy to buy and download, much like music. And, frankly, it’s fun to fill up your iPad with a colorful, robust set of thumbnails in your library. I don’t know why this is a good feeling, but it is.

Add to that, Ratliff notes, the marketing multiplier of social media sites like Facebook, Twitter and blogs.  Ratliff has a large following on all three and his authors do too. All of the followers of each feed off each other. "It is a hyper-networking effect.This kind of behavior just doesn’t happen when people walk into a Barnes & Noble. It’s a completely different way of marketing and selling things."

But as strong as the e-book business is, it is still just a ittie bitty thing - a toddler at best.  Ratliff says:

It will evolve in many unexpected ways. There will be as many strange business models evolving as we see with music today. The marketing of these e-books will become increasingly social.

The spread of good books has always been a word-of-mouth phenomenon. Now, with social media, e-books are word-of-mouth-on-steroids.

Based on my experience as an e-book author and buyer, Mr. Ratliff's piece is dead-on.  E-books are immediately available.   When you read about one in a blog and it catches your fancy, the buy button is just a click away - and it's linked into the blog, tweet, comment or book review.  No longer do you end up walking around a Barnes and Noble or Books A Million looking confused, and trying to remember the title of that romance you read such great things about.

E-books are cheaper than paper books and indie e-books are much cheaper than traditionally published books.  In this economy, nothing sells as well as value.  I have a first cousin who is a big used car wholesaler.  He says that when the economy is good, the used car business is good, but when the economy is bad, the used car business is great.  Indie e-books are a lot like the used car business, and more and more readers are giving work by new authors a shot and finding it a good bang for the buck.

And with bucks so scarce, don't we all have to get all the gusto we can from each purchase?

Maybe e-books aren't like used cars as much as instant grits.  Like instant grits, e-books are cheap to buy, easy to read, and convenient to store.  Plus, readers are blasted with tweets, Facebook posts and blogs convincing them to buy.  So yeah, e-books have advantages that even Wal-Mart never imagined.

Given all that, e-books are a nuclear explosion waiting to happen. Can you imagine how large and how fast the e-book market will grow when the economy picks up?  It'll be e-mazing, e-stounding and you know what?  It's e-nevitable.

I had to post this quick news link.  Fans of the blog know that I love EL James' "Fifty Shades of Grey" trilogy.  So when I read news about a possible fourth book - I had to share it here!

Apparently, in conjunction with the film a "special edition" of the trilogy is being released this week.  The linked Examiner piece says it will "offer some very exciting—and likely long awaited—sexy news to fans infatuated with a Christian Grey of their own."

The Examiner piece quotes a fan waiting in line to get Ms. James' autograph.  The fan says she overheard a rep from Vintage Books - the 50 Shades publishing company - say that the surprise announcement contained in the special edition is that there will be a fourth book.  The fan asked about it and the rep claimed that the book has been written and that he or she had read the first 5 pages.

Okay - (and, yes, I do like that word for all ages - sorry, digression based upon some recent reviews of Faerie) - but OKAY - it's not the most reliable source, but the Examiner printed the story, so they clearly felt that the account jived with the hype about the special edition.

The Examiner piece asks fans to speculate about the title for a Fourth "Fifty Shades."  Well, that woke up the duck that waddles on the treadmill that passes for my brain, and I started thinking about it.  If I were EL James - I have to pause for a moment, at the joy of imagining that one of my books will catch on a tenth or a hundredth as much as hers' have.  So, if I were EL James - once I recovered from my champagne/Vegas/Godiva spree - I'd title the Fourth Book either:

"Fifty Shades Legacy" or "Fifty Shades Consequences"  -- or perhaps -- "FIFTY SHADES REVEALED."  Eventually, one of those prior subs - or more likely several - were gonna talk, right?  And Christian's family - especially his little sister Mia, she might find the S&M lifestyle exciting enough to explore.  How would Christian feel about that?

So yeah, I say, "Fifty Shades Revealed" for the fourth book title.  What do y'all think?